Dear Brave Girl,
You are an amazing
person. You’re one of a kind. You’ve heard this from guys before, but there is
really something about you. Some sophistication. And you have to own that.
There is no else in this
world like you. You are one of the best things someone could ever have. You
have a love that is just waiting for the right person, the right moment – that
one that can make you feel unafraid…secure and safe, even when vulnerable. You
deserve to be loved, to have your feelings respected. You deserve peace, and
calm, and soundness of mind. You deserve to feel cared for. Mostly, you deserve
someone who wouldn’t hurt you in any way, just like how you can never even
begin to think about hurting them.
I know that it’s easy to
fake the smile and laughs in a crowded place, filled with family and friends.
It’s easy to make a joke and laugh loudly, give hugs to those who know you
best. It’s easy to hide the hurt and pain. It’s easy to hide your broken heart.
And I know that as soon
as you’re alone and the door is shut, how quickly that it all disappears. The
smile dims and your heart thuds brokenly when you let your mind run free. It’s
easy then, almost habit that you fall to the floor or curl up on a ball on the
bed, and cry, not remembering what exactly made you this way. You let your mind
put these cruel words into your head and heart. All you know is that you are in
pain and hurt, and knowing that tomorrow you will repeat the same thing.
You feel weak, but
you’re not.
You are so incredibly
strong.
Going through a hard
time no matter what the reason is, is really divesting and exhausted. Sometimes
you really don’t know what to do until tears becoming the most of your best
companion during days and nights. Time exactly will heal and mend the broken
hearts but still its long way to go. Healing process is an overwhelming feeling
that hurts so much and I understand so much how it feels.
You don’t have to worry
about anything. You don’t have to wonder if your significant other is cheating
on you or lying to you because in a way, life naturally sorts everything out.
If they decide to do those things to you. You know there will be someone better
despite the lies you tell yourself that maybe, he’s the best you can ever have.
You have seven billion people left. You just have to be strong enough to let go
and to stand by what is best for you. Do not be anxious or insecure. The wrong
ones will be weeded out by their own doing.
So many people love and
care for you, so lean on us when the world seems to crumble around you. We only
want the best for you. So cry and let the pain take over, but only for a
moment, because I know how strong and brave and beautiful you are. I know
without a doubt that when you stand, you will take a deep breath and refuse to
let the sadness take over. I know that you remember the love and memories you
buried in the back of your head. And I know that the broken heart you thought
you had was just your heart fighting for you, loving you until you were ready.
Do not think of
heartbreak as misery, but as a blessing – a sign from fate, a heads up from the
world. Be thankful that you can start over again. I know it hurts, it will
hurt, and you will feel like your world is crumbling down around you and your
heart physical pain but you will get over that…just like you have before. And
see, well, you’re still alive. You’re still here. You can still smile. You can
feel pain. That’s good. You’re human.
You have to realize that
forcing yourself to the wrong person is just keeping you away from the right
one. You don’t deserve to cry. You don’t deserve to be curling in pain, yet you
allow yourself to. Partly because you think things could change, partly because
you think who you’re supposed to be with, and sometimes because you don’t know
what else to hold on to. You’re lost. That’s okay. Take your first step. Now you’re
going somewhere.
You have to accept that things
will happen, and they are beyond your control. You control you and decide for
you, not for anyone else. you have to accept that people will screw up mess up
no matter how many times you beg them not to. Their thoughts are different from
yours. Accept that and know that a person who really loves you will continuously
decide to not do anything that will hurt you. You don’t even have to worry
about it.
Trust me – one day you’ll
look back and smile because you know that one of the best things you’ve ever
done was let go of someone who thought you loved, someone who might have loved
you at some point, too, but who in the end was never really right for you.
Chin up, sweetheart. We’re
all rooting for you, with love and strength.
Love always,
All the broken Hearted
Girls.
AMBALI ABDUL SHAKUR | Relationship
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